You love each other,
but it feels like you’re growing apart.
This book will help you heal,
together in a passionate relationship,
or apart with a healthy separation.
The Passion Paradox
by Dr. Bruce Chalmer
HOW CAN WE GET BACK THE PASSION IN OUR RELATIONSHIP?
Love shouldn’t feel like two strangers living under one roof.
If distance, doubt, or constant conflict has replaced connection, this workbook can help. Through interactive exercises and real-life scenarios, you’ll learn how to restore intimacy without losing stability, navigate arguments, and feel close again.
Reignite passion, rebuild trust, and decide your future with clarity and confidence. Love is complicated—but it can also be alive, thrilling, and safe. This workbook shows you how.
WHAT READERS ARE SAYING ABOUT THE PASSION PARADOX
“Dr. Chalmer’s book The Passion Paradox offers a way forward for people who are stuck in painful relationship limbo. Whether you’re reeling from an affair, struggling with intimacy issues, or have simply grown apart, Dr. Chalmer guides you to take stock, learn the skills you need, and move forward, whether that means staying together or splitting up. I recommend this book for individuals, couples, and the people who are helping them heal.“
—Janis Abrahms Spring, Ph.D., bestselling author of After the Affair
“The Passion Paradox is a wonderful guide for couples to find the sweet spot between passion and joyful comfort. We get to explore the corners of our psyches that we often hide from our partners due to confusion, vulnerability, or fear of losing them. Dr. Chalmer shares stories that we can relate to, and exercises that help us open up these potential sore points gently so that we can look at them in kindness and find the intimacy that we are truly looking for.”
—Katrina Bos, author of Tantric Intimacy: Discover the Magic of True Connection
“Dr. Chalmer’s book The Passion Paradox offers an immensely helpful approach to re-viewing one’s relationship, by asking lovingly challenging questions which help readers to honestly probe and communicate their thinking, feeling, and values to themselves and their partners. His workbook’s ideas and exercises rest on the essential dignity of each person in a relationship, and his compassion, wit, and embracing of human imperfection underwrite this exceptionally useful, practical, growth-supporting workbook. What a wonderful contribution to our field!“
—Jean Pieniadz, Ph.D., Clinical Psychologist/Psychoanalyst, and Co-author, Dialogue Therapy for Couples and Real Dialogue for Opposing Sides: Methods Based on Psychoanalysis and Mindfulness
ABOUT DR. BRUCE CHALMER
Dr. Bruce Chalmer is a licensed psychologist and couples therapist with over 30 years of experience helping partners navigate the complexities of long-term relationships. Drawing on clinical insight, real-world compassion, and a deep understanding of how stability and intimacy intertwine, Dr. Chalmer has guided countless couples through the very challenges explored in The Passion Paradox.
Together with his wife Judy Alexander, Dr. Chalmer hosts the podcast “Couples Therapy in Seven Words.”
Dr. Chalmer’s other books include:
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